Today is Katelyn's Birthday and I ordered flowers and balloons to be delivered to school for her. We are going to wichita this weekend to spend hers and andrews birthday doing something fun. We are planning on shopping, watching the cheerleading competition and then going to chucky cheese's to eat, relax and play games.
2-17-2011
I asked Katelyn if her dad ever called her for her birthday and she replied that he hadn't called her at all.
2-28-2011
To this day he still has not even given her a card for her birthday. Of course it's really no suprise, she hasn't recieved a card from him for many years now. He hasn't even called her on her birthday for probably 4 or 5 years. I have that documented somewhere with my paperwork but without digging it out i know it's been several years maybe even longer. Don called andrew on his birthday and even gave him a card with 10 dollars in it, but has yet to give anything to katelyn, but he expects her to want to spend time with him. I know how she feels, feeling like she is not good enough for her dad. Feeling like he doesnt really care about her or her activities. He never tries to go out of his way to see gymnastics, go to church with her, watch her sports activities or even just meet her for lunch. It's really really sad. She will really miss that someday.
Monday, February 28, 2011
Sunday, January 30, 2011
January 30 2011
So Friday which is Don's weekend this weekend, I made Katelyn set up a lunch date with her dad for today after church. So she told her dad on the phone, we can have lunch Sunday when i get out of church at noon. Don never shows up, never calls her and all he does is complain that she never called him. When is he gonna get it through her head that she is a child and it is not her responsibility. He will not put in any effort, he just expects it to be magically better in 24 hours. She doesn't drive, it's not like she can just go and pick him up and force him to go with her to lunch. I don't know what he wants but her and I are trying and he is more interested in blaming us and threatening to call the cops on her. Like that is gonna help his relationship with her. I dont really know what else to do. I have done all that I can to help him but he is unwilling to help himself. If he can't have it right now then he doesn't want it at all. I guess maybe he should have let us move because then he would at least have the summers with her and spring and christmas break. Oh well his lose I guess. Not much else I can do.
Friday, January 21, 2011
Youth Group
Don was taking Andrew to youth group on sunday nights between court hearings, I guess so he looked good in court, however, since court in December, he has not taken Andrew to youth group once. He does not support the kids in their activities especially church. He does not think that they need to be in youth group and I think they do. Not only do I believe God is important in their life, it helps them through a lot of major issues such as Bullying, Peer Pressure, Sex, Drinking, Drugs, Death in the family and many other good things.
I contacted the Hope group today, the parenting class that we need to take that is court ordered. I found out that it is only 150 for 4 sessions which meet every other tuesday night. Barbara said that the courts really dont like it if Don decides not to do it, so I am praying that he won't do this class. I hope by then he thinks I am staying and not going anywhere so he wont have to worry about it. Not that I dont think it would do him good. Barbara said this class works on making parents see that what they do affects the kids. that's the most important thing because Don just doesn't see that everything he says and does affects the kids. that's one of the reason why the older they get the less they want anything to do with him. He has disappointed them so much and has taken girlfriends and their kids and put them first. He has taken the kids' rooms away from them, first it was katelyn's room when his ex girlfriend moved in and her girls took over katelyn's bed and katelyn's room. Now this time it is Andrew who is being pushed out of his bedroom. His new gf has a boy or boys and so when she stays, her kids get Andrew's bed and bedroom and Andrew said he had to sleep somewhere else. He was really upset that this boy got to sleep in his bed and he was stuck sleeping somewhere else. I hope this GAL knows that by making us stay here, she is now ruining the kids' relationship with Don. If we were able to move, this would not have happened so soon after court like i warned. I told her this would happen. God i'm good at predicting things. He now thinks he can control everything and that no matter what he does or doesn't do, it wont matter because the judge will make me stay here. At least if we were able to move don would still have a decent relationship with his son. Kodi now cant even stand to be around Don after pulling what he has done especially the night I called the cops, because i sent kodi over to get him and don was a complete ass to him on the phone,so kodi said fine keep him and then hung up on him. Katelyn's relationship is getting worse too, because now don is saying that on the nights she is supposed to be at his house, she is not allowed to go hang out with her friends. He thinks that he can tell me what to do with her when she is staying with me. Yeah right, it's not my fault that he ruined his relationship with her. I am not gonna take orders from him ever again. I"M DIVORCED AND HE IS DEAD TO ME. I HAVE NEVER HATED SOMEONE MORE IN MY LIFE. that relationship has also gotten worse since court because of the things he says to her. One day, I am at work and it is his weekend. This was New Year's Eve weekend. He's on the phone with her and wants to know if she is gonna come oveer Saturday night (since he wasn't taking them on friday night, because he was going out, and she kept telling him no. He must have kept asking her why she didn't want to spend time with him because she just kept repeating "because I dont want to" because I said I dont want to and i dont want to see you", then he said something else because she got really angry with him and said "NO end of discussion" and hung up on him. Hello, wake up, does that not just tell you that the relationship needs help. NO not to him, he just thiinks that its my fault and I did this to him. whatever its' always my fault, I'm used to that with Don. Anymore it goes in one ear and out the other. so I am kind of hoping he will do this class, so he quits blaming me and changes his actions and blame on everyone else. but I do not think this class will do any good for him so for my sake I really hope he doesnt do it. He will never change and I just have to accept it and ignore his stupid comments. I am not helping myself by letting him get to me. I just need to remember that.
I contacted the Hope group today, the parenting class that we need to take that is court ordered. I found out that it is only 150 for 4 sessions which meet every other tuesday night. Barbara said that the courts really dont like it if Don decides not to do it, so I am praying that he won't do this class. I hope by then he thinks I am staying and not going anywhere so he wont have to worry about it. Not that I dont think it would do him good. Barbara said this class works on making parents see that what they do affects the kids. that's the most important thing because Don just doesn't see that everything he says and does affects the kids. that's one of the reason why the older they get the less they want anything to do with him. He has disappointed them so much and has taken girlfriends and their kids and put them first. He has taken the kids' rooms away from them, first it was katelyn's room when his ex girlfriend moved in and her girls took over katelyn's bed and katelyn's room. Now this time it is Andrew who is being pushed out of his bedroom. His new gf has a boy or boys and so when she stays, her kids get Andrew's bed and bedroom and Andrew said he had to sleep somewhere else. He was really upset that this boy got to sleep in his bed and he was stuck sleeping somewhere else. I hope this GAL knows that by making us stay here, she is now ruining the kids' relationship with Don. If we were able to move, this would not have happened so soon after court like i warned. I told her this would happen. God i'm good at predicting things. He now thinks he can control everything and that no matter what he does or doesn't do, it wont matter because the judge will make me stay here. At least if we were able to move don would still have a decent relationship with his son. Kodi now cant even stand to be around Don after pulling what he has done especially the night I called the cops, because i sent kodi over to get him and don was a complete ass to him on the phone,so kodi said fine keep him and then hung up on him. Katelyn's relationship is getting worse too, because now don is saying that on the nights she is supposed to be at his house, she is not allowed to go hang out with her friends. He thinks that he can tell me what to do with her when she is staying with me. Yeah right, it's not my fault that he ruined his relationship with her. I am not gonna take orders from him ever again. I"M DIVORCED AND HE IS DEAD TO ME. I HAVE NEVER HATED SOMEONE MORE IN MY LIFE. that relationship has also gotten worse since court because of the things he says to her. One day, I am at work and it is his weekend. This was New Year's Eve weekend. He's on the phone with her and wants to know if she is gonna come oveer Saturday night (since he wasn't taking them on friday night, because he was going out, and she kept telling him no. He must have kept asking her why she didn't want to spend time with him because she just kept repeating "because I dont want to" because I said I dont want to and i dont want to see you", then he said something else because she got really angry with him and said "NO end of discussion" and hung up on him. Hello, wake up, does that not just tell you that the relationship needs help. NO not to him, he just thiinks that its my fault and I did this to him. whatever its' always my fault, I'm used to that with Don. Anymore it goes in one ear and out the other. so I am kind of hoping he will do this class, so he quits blaming me and changes his actions and blame on everyone else. but I do not think this class will do any good for him so for my sake I really hope he doesnt do it. He will never change and I just have to accept it and ignore his stupid comments. I am not helping myself by letting him get to me. I just need to remember that.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
1-15-2011 don drops andrew off again during his weekend visitation
Don brings Andrew to my house at 745 am today with no prior notice. This is his weekend and he is supposed to be keeping him. If he has other things to do then it is his responsibility to find a sitter, not use me as a drop off place when he has to do other things. Always laying his responsibilities on me and using me without asking. The judge told him specifically to take responsibility and not use me as a drop off when he wants to go out or do other things and that's all he's done since court.
1-16-2011
Don is trying to lay his responsibilities on me again by refusing to bring Andrew home tonight from his weekend visitation. What is so hard about following a court order. It is ordered that he transports on the weekends and that's what he needs to follow. He doesnt do anything else to help me out, the least he could do is follow the schedule. He is using the gas expense as his reason for not being able to bring Andrew home because he is taking them to school 2 days a week. I think he forgot that him, his attorney and the GAL all said in court that he was more than willing to help transport the kids to school. After fighting and texting all day long, which by the way, I am at work and don't need to lose my job over all this, for 7 hours listening to him degrade me and lay his responsibilities on me while i am trying to work. He knows I work 2 to close every sunday. How does eh even think I can just leave work to come get Andrew. He is still unwilling to follow an order, so I have given him 30 minutes to get andrew home or I am calling the cops. 730pm
8pm- Andrew continues to ask me if Kodi will come get him or if I will come get him. He has told his dad several times that he wants him to take him home and don still refuses. How can he not care about his kids and their feelings? 8pm I had to call the cops to get Andrew home. The sheriff had to come out to my job to discuss this issue. He called don to see where he was and he was leaving Walmart. Andrew texted me and said they were at walmart, then they had to go back home because don forgot his wallet, so he passed my mom's house 3 times tonight and still refused to drop Andrew off.
1-17-2011- recieved an email from don. I also recieved a letter today about some text messages that don turned over to his attorney, however from the sounds of it he only gives her one sided messages so she doesnt see all the bull shit he puts me through. she also doesnt see the lies he is telling her. He doesn't tell her that although they said in court many times that he was more than willing to follow a court order and to take the kids to school, he is unwilling and constantly bitches at me about the gas money.
1-16-2011
Don is trying to lay his responsibilities on me again by refusing to bring Andrew home tonight from his weekend visitation. What is so hard about following a court order. It is ordered that he transports on the weekends and that's what he needs to follow. He doesnt do anything else to help me out, the least he could do is follow the schedule. He is using the gas expense as his reason for not being able to bring Andrew home because he is taking them to school 2 days a week. I think he forgot that him, his attorney and the GAL all said in court that he was more than willing to help transport the kids to school. After fighting and texting all day long, which by the way, I am at work and don't need to lose my job over all this, for 7 hours listening to him degrade me and lay his responsibilities on me while i am trying to work. He knows I work 2 to close every sunday. How does eh even think I can just leave work to come get Andrew. He is still unwilling to follow an order, so I have given him 30 minutes to get andrew home or I am calling the cops. 730pm
8pm- Andrew continues to ask me if Kodi will come get him or if I will come get him. He has told his dad several times that he wants him to take him home and don still refuses. How can he not care about his kids and their feelings? 8pm I had to call the cops to get Andrew home. The sheriff had to come out to my job to discuss this issue. He called don to see where he was and he was leaving Walmart. Andrew texted me and said they were at walmart, then they had to go back home because don forgot his wallet, so he passed my mom's house 3 times tonight and still refused to drop Andrew off.
1-17-2011- recieved an email from don. I also recieved a letter today about some text messages that don turned over to his attorney, however from the sounds of it he only gives her one sided messages so she doesnt see all the bull shit he puts me through. she also doesnt see the lies he is telling her. He doesn't tell her that although they said in court many times that he was more than willing to follow a court order and to take the kids to school, he is unwilling and constantly bitches at me about the gas money.
1-13-2011
So today I asked Don nicely " Can you by any chance pick the kids up from school today until I can figure something else out. I have to take a class on Tuesday and Thursday afternoons (its the only time to take this class) so I can graduate in May." And he says "NO I can't get the kids from school I hat to work, you should have had all this planned out." I just told him I found out wednesday night before class which was 6-9pm. I did not have time to plan it out and he was off work that day, which I later found out through facebook. He had me in court not even knowing if I was gonna be here taking classes or not and lastly I didn't know I even needed this class to graduate in May until I enrolled yesterday. I never said he had to do it or take off work, I just asked nicely if there was any way that he could. Later on that morning, I get a text message that says "how's that for a bunch of bullshit first thing in the morning... she thinks everyone should just jump to her wimms everytime she needs something." first of all, it's not for me its for HIS kids and Im now wondering if they are even his. He has stated many times that all I did was cheat on him so i guess since that is true they must not be his. lol. He's stupid and crazy and I went the fuck off on him. I'm so tired of his stupid ass comments texting everyone else my conversations with him and obviously they see how nicely I asked him if there was any chance he could pick up the kids. Then hes texting other peope saying he has to deal with a bunch of shit from me. What a bunch of bullshit. He's so full of shit, i sure hope next time we get a judge that actually sees through all his lies.
1-12-2011
So I ask Don if he can take the kids to school 2 days a week and since I am in class on Wed nights now, asked him if he could help with getting the kids to youth group. Of course he tells me he can not afford to do both. Okay so he goes to work on Thursday and Fridays anyways, so its not too much to ask and not much extra gas especially when I have to drive them to school everyday from Assaria, back to Assaria and then back to Salina to pick them up from school. So really the only extra gas would be running them to youth groups on Wed night or picking them up because I can drop them off on my way to class. But of course he can not do it. He does not want that responsibility.
tonight he took Andrew from 6-9.
tonight he took Andrew from 6-9.
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