Cops called again for visitation issue

March 11,2011

So it's Don's visitation weekend again and Katelyn refused to go again despite me telling her that she needs to spend time with her dad, although she has been sick all week as Andrew was last week and Don made an agreement with Andrew that because he was sick he would not take him for visitation so he could get well. When Don decides not to take Andrew, he doesnt even discuss or ask Katelyn if she wants to do something or spend time with him. If Andrew doesn't go with his Dad, Don doesnt complain about Katelyn not going, in fact I offered time with Katelyn on March 3 which was a wednesday night, since Andrew was sick I thought it was a good opportunity for him to spend one on one time with Katelyn, so I asked him if he was in town which he said he wasnt but then i asked if he would like to come in and spend a little time with Katelyn taking her shopping to finish getting ready for the ski trip. He said he was not coming into town until his workplace called saying his check was ready to be picked up. He knew Katelyn had Youth group which I said she could be a little late and I would take her to target so he wouldnt have to drive all the way into town and that would give them an hour to shop and spend time together and then he could drop her off at youth group. It was more important to sit at home and wait for his paycheck then to come in and spend an hour with his daughter. I dont understand why he couldnt meet Katelyn at Target and shop with her while he waited for his check. It just doesnt make any sense to me but then when she doesnt want to go for a weekend visitation he gets mad and calls the cops on her. But when you think about it, if he's showing her he doesnt care about her and doesnt want to spend time with her, then i guess you can understand that she feels like he doesnt care to spend time with her when we offer or she wants to so why should she care to spend time with him when he wants her too. Its a lot of MENTAL ABUSE, JUST LIKE HE WAS AND STILL IS WITH ME. I GUESS IT'S BECAUSE SHE'S A GIRL, HE MENTALLY ABUSES EVERY GIRL HE KNOWS INCLUDING HIS OWN DAUGHTER. HOWEVER, HE DOES MENTALLY ABUSE HIS SON ALSO. I WANT IT TO STOP. I HOPE THE JUDGE WILL MAKE HIM STOP MENTALLY ABUSING THE KIDS AND GET HELP SO THE KIDS ARE NOT SCARED OF HIM ANYMORE.
Kodi no longer goes out to Don's because of what don has done in the past few months. my kids are very protective of me especially kodi and when someone tries to hurt me, my kids protect me especially kodi.
So back to tonight, when katelyn told don she didnt want to go and wasn't going he called the cops again. when they finally showed up, i showed the cops the copies of emails and text messages of the many times i have set up lunch dates with katelyn where don has not showed up. I also explained to the officer that Katelyn has not been to his house in 2 years except for christmas eve. Don tends to lie to get people to take his side not telling them the whole story, just like with all the letters from my attorney that came from his attorney where his attorney says i'm not doing anything to force visitation when in fact i have by setting up lunch dates. he doesnt tell his attorney that i have set up meetings and encouraged katelyn to meet him and to build a relationship with her father, however when he doesnt show up it's hard for her to build that relationship. He's always lying about things like that because he wants to look good and make me look bad, but when his attorney sees all this in court she will be shocked that he has lied all this time. Just like when he lied to the police. They spoke with Katelyn alone in her room and as i heard some of it i didnt hear everything but did hear him ask what happened with her dad and she told him that she wasnt allowed at his house for a while, something even i wasn't aware that he had said to her. The officer asked if she wanted a relationship with her dad and she said not really, when he asked if she was willing to try to get to know her dad she said she didnt really want to but he got her to say maybe. She told the officer that she was sick and didnt feel up to going and he asked if she went to school which in fact she had missed most of the week due to being sick and running a fever again thursday night which is why i had to keep her home again friday. she did she a dr last week which the dr ordered her to stay home for 3 days, she tried to go back to school on thursday which was not a good idea because she ended up with a fever again friday. I have made her stay in all weekend and will only be allowed to go to church on sunday. after the officer spoke with me again, he went out to tell don he was not forcing her to go with him and I was able to talk katelyn into another lunch date with her dad which we set up with the officer so that i had a witness to setting up another meeting. When he asked don if he could meet us at 1215 Sunday for lunch with his daughter at mcdonalds on planet ave which i heard him tell don all this, don said that he needed a reminder text. I told the officer "dont you think if his daughter was important to him that he would remember a lunch date 2 days later. not like its a month away. The officer agreed that if he really wanted a relationship with katelyn that he would remember and he would do anything including "crawling through glass to see his kids". I agreed to send a reminder text even though i felt that was not my responsibility to remind him. I was going to be the bigger person.
So today, March 12,2011 at approx 6 pm, I sent him a reminder text saying lunch with katelyn tomorrow. He's always trying to start shit with me so he said i need to know where and what time and i said exactly what we set up with the cops last night. then he had to throw "your being uncooperative thanks for showing me that your unwilling" WHAT EVER JEEZ I CANT WIN.  I sent a reminder text what does he want me to do go pick him up and take him to meet her because he can't remember because she is not important to him. do i have to force him to show up. holy crap its just so old being put down all the time no matter how hard i try to be nice. its so hard to be nice to someone like that. i told him that i was doing more than i even should be doing by reminding you, i didnt have to do that at all, but i did. then he tried to say that the cops never told him where or what time. ANOTHER LIE I HEARD THE COPS TELL HIM 1215 AT MCDONALDS ON  PLANET AVE. WELL GUESS WE WILL SEE IF HE SHOWS UP TOMORROW. I HIGHLY DOUBT HE WILL. HE PROBABLY DOESNT REMEMBER WHAT TIME EVEN THOUGH I REMINDED HIM AGAIN TONIGHT. I ALSO SENT AN EMAIL WITH ALL THE DETAILS.
WE GO BACK TO COURT ON MONDAY, I'M ACTUALLY EXCITED TO SEE WHAT THE JUDGE THINKS WHEN HE HEARS EVERYTHING I'VE DONE AND REALIZES ALL THE LIES DON HAS TOLD SINCE COURT IN DECEMBER AND TO SEE THE LOOK ON HIS ATTORNEY'S FACE WILL BE PRICELESS.
SHE PROBABLY DOESNT EVEN KNOW THAT THE FIRST WEEKEND HE WAS SUPPOSED TO HAVE THE KIDS AFTER THE LAST COURT HEARING WHEN THE JUDGE TOLD HIM HE COULDNT GO OUT AND HAVE FUN THAT HE HAD KIDS NOW AND THEY WERE TO COME FIRST, HE DROPPED THEM OFF WITH ME AFTER SPENDING ONE HOUR WITH THEM ON DECEMBER 31ST, SO THAT HE COULD GO OUT FOR NEW YEARS EVE. HE DIDNT WANT THEM LIKE HE SAID HE DID IN COURT. I'M THINKING THE JUDGE WONT LIKE THAT AT ALL. I ONLY PRAY HE SEES AND HEARS EVERYTHING THAT DON HAS SCREWED UP SINCE DECEMBER 20TH 2010.
OH ONE MORE THING, DON DIDNT SHOW UP TO TAKE THE KIDS TO SCHOOL THURSDAY MORNING SO I HAD TO TAKE THEM TO SCHOOL. I RECIEVED A TEXT AT 800AM SAYING HE FELL ASLEEP ON THE COUCH AND NEVER HEARD ANYTHING FROM ANDREW. ALWAYS BLAMING HIS SCREW UPS ON OTHER PEOPLE WHETHER ITS ME OR HIS KIDS. IT WAS ANDREWS FAULT HE DIDNT GET UP TO TAKE THE KIDS TO SCHOOL. ITS NOT ANDREWS RESPONSIBILITY, ITS DON'S. HE KNOWS HE HAS TO TAKE THEM TO SCHOOL EVERY THURSDAY AND FRIDAY AND HE BLAMES ANDREW. WOW HE IS SOMETHING ELSE.
WELL I WILL WRITE TOMORROW ABOUT VISITATION WITH KATELYN IF HE SHOWS UP.